Two’s Company, Three’s a Crowd

Among the many important decisions a bride-to-be is faced with, none is more political or potentially dramatic than the choosing of her bridal party.  Here are some common bridal party misconceptions that will make picking your go-to –girls as easy as 1-2-7!

1.       One Two Many:

You have 3 sisters, 2 bests from high school, but 4 from college, but then he has 2 sisters, and that’s 11!  Are we throwing a pageant or a wedding here? This is the first big misconception. There are no rules as to how many bridesmaids a girl can have.  What’s important to remember here is that weddings aren’t like holidays: they’re rare, and on a day that’s this important to you, you should be able to share it with all of the people most important to you as well. Whether you have 3 or 13, don’t limit the gals who can love you.

2.       Even Steven:

Okay, if you have 4 bridesmaids, and he has 2, then that means you have 5 more months to make those two guys from the coffee shop his best friends. Sound familiar? This is another common misconception.  For years this is the way weddings were coordinated, the best man walked down the maid of honor, and the 3 groomsmen did their gentlemanly duty by walking down the three bridesmaids. But girls, here’s the deal, women can vote, drive, and run for office, so why on earth can’t they walk alone?  If you have more go-to-girls than he has bosom buddies, don’t sweat it.  You can either have your girls walk alone, or borrow an usher! And as for him having more guys, what guy is going to object to having two ladies?

3.       No Room For Rules

Bridesmaid requirements are as follows: a. if you are related to the bride or groom b. if you have known the bride longer than 5 years and c. if the bride was previously in your wedding. Sound about right? Wrong.  I cannot reiterate this enough: your wedding, your rules.  Just because you were in close in high school, or because he only has one sister, does not mean that you are required to make room for them in your party. After all, that sour sister-in-law is already going to be at every holiday, does she have to be in all of your photos as well?

Your wedding only has to be as traditional as you are, so break a few rules. The book could use a serious update anyways.

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